I related to this article, and your creative path. I got married for the first time at 51, and started a blog called "The Late Blooming Bride." It began with funny anecdotes about being an old bride, but turned into deeper thoughts on finding love (and yourself) at midlife. Like you, I wanted to offer hope that life can get better with age. P.S. I just lost both parents in 2020, and I've been processing my grief through my creative work. I'm writing much more these days about vulnerability and the power of surrender--things also needed for dating, oddly enough. Anyway, enough of my story, thanks for yours, Debbie. I look forward to reading more of you.

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I was a marriage first-timer at 51, and now I'm a life coach/dating coach with many single midlife clients. Here's what I can tell you about dating post-50: No one is perfect. People are flawed, some are bitter, most are jaded. The challenge is to forgive the imperfections, but keep your standards high. It's not settling as much as it is knowing your worth and honoring your highest good. Do this and you'll find someone who aligns with you and vibrates at your frequency. P.S. When someone really likes you, they tend to do the right thing.

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Treva Brandon Scharf

Treva Brandon Scharf

ICF-certified life/dating/relationship coach, author of "Done Being Single: A Late Bloomer's Guide to Love" coming March 2023. Visit www.trevabrandonscharf.com