I’m old-fashioned (and old), so I remember a time when men exclusively did all the pursuing, approaching, and courting. It was a charming and romantic ritual, at least for me. I had good experiences in my single days; no unwanted advances or harassment. No thanks meant no thanks. They got the message.

For better or worse, the dating power dynamics have changed, and so have the rituals. It sounds like the writer misses those days, but unfortunately she comes across like another man-hater on Medium: angry and demanding.

She still wants men to step up, and so do I, but I’m not going to badger men over it. However, unless women start to assume the role of the pursuer, we're going to be at a stand-off because men just aren't approaching anymore. The environment is too hostile these days.

Anyway, thanks for the follow-up question, RH!