Sorry, but no one is "owed" anything--not answers, not approval, validation, or future. You have a need to know, and that's understandable. No one likes to be left in the dark or without control over their destiny, especially in dating. But the truth is, nothing is promised, and it's up to us to provide our own sense of safety and security.

I'm old school when it comes to romance and courtship, and always preferred the man to lead/make plans/etc. but that's becoming outdated. In a post-feminist/post MeToo dating world, it's now perfectly acceptable for women to initiate. What’s stopping you from reaching out to him or communicating your interest?