When did "nice" go from being a virtue to a dirty word? Niceness--along with kindness, respect, and chivalry--are the hallmarks of a decent (and strong) man. Please stop telling guys to ditch the niceness otherwise we're setting the dating world up to be filled with assholes! And by the way, someone who "wants to be loved rather than to love," isn't "The Nice Guy," it's someone with poor self-esteem, and it goes for women too.